Today is a new chance to live your life in truth
We are taught from an early age to tell the truth, even when we know it will get us in trouble. Do you ever stop and wonder why then it is so hard for some people to be upfront and honest? It puzzles me as to why some have such a strong need to avoid the truth. It’s like there is a magnet pulling them in the opposite direction of something true, real and honest. Sadly there are examples of this in our everyday lives.
Recently, I have had an issue with someone being dishonest for reasons that I can only guess were not honorable. Someone has decided to have their mail sent to my address. I am talking important mail like auto insurance information, a car title and other mail, not junk mail. Seems harmless, but is it really? I have some theories on this and have decided that it is best to let the proper authorities take care of the matter. But it got me to thinking about what happened to the important things like honesty and integrity? In a world that sometimes is so crazy there are certain things that a person should always be able to count on. Unfortunately today it seems like avoidance, deception and half truths are things some people embrace more than the honesty, integrity and strength of character.
For some maybe shades of truth may seem like a good idea, but I still think that the old saying “Honesty is the best policy” holds true today. It’s not like you have to try to hurt someone with the truth. But being open and honest in a caring loving way, whether it’s with your children, parents, friends, neighbors or anyone, seems like a kinder, gentler way to live. It’s a priceless gift when you can believe someone and they can believe you. It saves everyone time, energy and takes the guesswork out of the equation. The truth allows you to live with integrity and shows the world who you are and your character. The best part is that it costs nothing and you can start anytime. Every day is a new chance to begin again, new and fresh and to live your life in truth.
As for me, I hope that the authorities will be able to put a stop to the use of my mailing address for deceptive reasons, or that the person who decided to use my address will get a conscience and start using their own address, instead of hiding behind mine. It is my hope for them, that they will find their way back to the truth. In the end, the truth does set you free. It sets you free to walk your path in life with dignity, integrity and shows your character to the world. As Mark Twain once said, “If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.”
Loralie Hurt — Franklin, N.C.
Self-control, discipline keys to success
John Stossel probably has one of the most thoughtful programs on television and although I disagree with some of his Libertarian views, he usually makes sense.
He recently had Amy Chua, the highly criticized Chinese/American lady who wrote a book titled “Tiger Mom” on his show. You may recall that her two daughters were required to spend four and five hours a day practicing piano and violin and maintain straight A’s in school. No hanging out with the gang and no sleepovers.
Predictions were her kids would grow up hating her and would have serious psychological problems but it turned out to be exactly the opposite and one daughter is already attending Harvard with straight A’s there. Both daughters are self-confident and are doing extremely well.
But let me digress for a moment.
Psychologists ran a test of some kids around five years of age. One by one a kid was brought into a room and told that if they didn’t eat both marshmallows on a table, they would get a bonus at a later time. Most of the kids ate both but the few kids that practiced self-restraint later got a bunch of marshmallows.
Studied years later, the kids that had practiced self-restraint were far more successful in life, happier, and had far fewer suicides or drug use. The level of self-esteem was much higher.
The kids with no self-control were looking for instant gratification and are probably the same college students we see kicking and screaming, because they have discovered that life is sometimes tough.
Typical of many Chinese/American parents, their kids usually do well in life. However, some called the “Tiger Mom” a racist but in fact the same set of circumstances apply to Nigerian immigrants who exert strong discipline of their kids. Although a very small population in America, the Nigerian/Americans account for 25 percent of the black American owned businesses and far less involvement in crime or drugs.
So what’s the takeaway from this?
Many of our kids lack self- control and discipline and look for immediate gratification and when they can’t get it, they turn to drugs or look to big government to get it for them. The streets of San Diego, San Francisco and other large cities are filled with what might politely be called spoiled brats, living on the sidewalks and doing drugs.
We also have many spoiled brats in college who have no idea of what self-control means and taught by, in my opinion, many seriously goofy professors who spend much too much time fretting over what is or is not politically correct.
Without self-control, no plans are made for the future and they become dependent on others to support them in their old age.
Parenting is hard work, real hard work, and it requires parents to be part of their kid’s lives, know what they are doing and teaching them the art of self-control. Kids need not just a “Tiger Mom” but a “Tiger Dad” too.
Immigrants understood this and why they were so successful in building this country.
One thing for sure, it’s going to be the current crop of kids who practice self restraint and work hard who will be the success stories and our leaders in the future.
Bob Wilson — Franklin, N.C.
Happy 70th birthday to VFW Post 7339
As a proud member of VFW Post 7339 of Franklin, I want to say thank you to all members and Happy 70th birthday. To them the members for their service to our country, to helping fellow veterans, to community service. To the men who in 1946 who gathered together to form 7339 VFW, rest well my brothers and job well done.
Since the post opened, over these years the members have suported many, many local causes in our community, our veterans’ families, our local schools, service to our veterans at funeral services.
Now, last but not least for welcoming half-backs like me to the Post.
Well done my brothers again, keep up your great work in our community. Let’s do another 70 years. Walk proud my brothers; you all have earned it.
Wm. Trapani— Franklin, N.C.
A lesson on the workings of government
Once upon a time the government had a vast scrap yard in the middle of a desert. Congress said, “Someone may steal from it at night.” So they created a night watchman position and hired a person for the job. Then Congress said, “How does the watchman do his job without instruction?” So they created a planning department and hired two people, one person to write the instructions, and one person to check the plans. Then Congress said, “How will we know the watchman is doing his job correctly? “So they created a Quality Control Department and hired two people. One was to do the studies and one was to write the reports. Then Congress said, “How are these people going to get paid?” So they created two positions, a time keeper and a payroll officer and hired two people. Then Congress said, “Who will be accountable for all these people?” So they created an administrative section and hired three people, an administrative officer, an assistant administrative officer and a legal secretary. After one year in operation Congress said, “We are $ 900,000 over budget, we must cut back. So they laid off the night watchman! Now slowly let that sink in. Quietly we go like sheep to slaughter.
Real story now. Does anybody remember the reason given for the establishment of the Department of Energy? Anybody? Anything? No? Didn’t think so.
Bottom line is, we’ve spent several $100 billion in support of an agency, the reason for which very few people can remember. Really?
It is very simple: The Department of Energy was instituted on Aug. 4, 1977, to lessen our dependence on foreign oil. Now it’s 2016 – 39 years later – and the budget for this “necessary” department is at $ 24.2 billion a year! It has 16,000 federal employees and approximately 100,000 contract employees; and look at the job it has done. 39 years ago, 30 percent of our oil consumption was foreign imports. Today, it is 70 percent!
Yes, good old federal bureaucracy.
Now, we have turned over the banking system, health care and the auto industry to this same government.
Hello? Anybody home?
Sandy Sanders — Otto, N.C.